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1、放下怨恨，樂享人生 Youhearpeoplesaythisallthetime：“IhavearighttobeupsetbecauseofthewayI’vebeentreated.Ihavearighttobeangry，hurt，depressed，sad，and1）resentful.”Learningtoavoidthiskindofthinkingisoneofmysecretsforlivingalifeofinnerpeace，success，andhappiness.Anytimeyou’refilledwithresentment，you’r
2、eturningthecontrolsofyouremotionallifeovertoothersto2）manipulate. Ibecameawareofhowpowerfulthislessonwasmanyyearsagowhilesittinginonameetingof12peoplewhowereinarecoverygroupforalcoholismanddrugaddiction.All12ofthosepeoplewereaccustomedtoblamingothersfortheirweaknesses，usingalmostanyex
3、cuseasarationaleforreturningtotheirself-defeatingways.Onaposterhangingintheroomwerethesewords：“Inthisgroup，therearenojustifiedresentments.” Regardlessofwhatanyonewouldsaytoanothergroupmember，nomatterhowconfrontationaloruglytheaccusations，eachpersonwasremindedthattherearenojustifiedres
4、entments.Youmayneedtoconsiderwhomyouresentbeforeyoumakeyourownchoiceaboutwhetherthisisusefulforyou.Resentmentsgiveyouanexcuseto5returntoyouroldways.Thisiswhatgotyouthereinthefirstplace！ Removingresentmentandblamefromyourlifemeansneverassigningresponsibilitytoanyoneforwhatyou’reexperie
5、ncing.Itmeansthatyou’rewillingtosay，“ImaynotunderstandwhyIfeelthisway，whyIhavethisillness，whyI’vebeenvictimized，orwhyIhadthisaccident，butI’mwillingtosaywithoutanyguiltorresentmentthatIownit.Ilivewith，andIamresponsiblefor，havingitinmylife.”Whydothis？Ifyoutakeresponsibilityforhavingit，th
6、enatleastyouhaveachancetoalsotakeresponsibilityforremovingitorlearningfromit. Ifyou’reinsomesmall（perhapsunknown）wayresponsibleforthat3）migraineheadacheorthatdepressedfeeling，thenyoucangotoworktoremoveitordiscoverwhatitsmessageisforyou.If，ontheotherhand，someoneorsomethingelseisrespons
7、ibleinyourmind，thenofcourseyou’llhavetowaituntiltheychangeforyoutogetbetter.Andthatisunlikelytooccur. First，youhavetogetpastblame.Thenyouhavetolearntosendlovetoall，ratherthanangerandresentment.Justasnoonecandefineyou，neitherdoyouhavetheprivilegeofdefiningothers.Whenyoustopjudgingand
