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1、ThefamilyisaplaceinwhichchildrenlearntoParentingandChildren’sDevelopment論文.freelilyisaplaceinationabouttheatureindividuals,andtheymayfeelfrustratedintryingtodiscoverthebestent.Parentingstylesarebroadpatternsofchildrearingpractices,values,andbehaviors.AccordingtoDianaBaumrind,fourtypesofpar
2、entingstylesareindulgent(moreresponsivethandemanding),authoritarian(highlydemandinganddirectivebutnotresponsive),authoritative(bothdemandingandresponsive),andindulgent(loandingness)Childrenfromauthoritarianfamilyareoftenaggressive,fearful,andanxious,theyoftenhaveunicationskills.Childrenass
3、ociatedindulgentfamilyareaggressive,spoiled,andnonpliant,theyhavedifficultiesinpeerrelations.Childrenassociatedotionsareoftenaffectedbyparenting.Parentsarekids’firstimportantteachers.AccordingtoJohnGottman,“Parentsarekids’emotioncoachers,andtheyteachtheirkidsstrategiestodealorethanIQ,emoti
4、onalaineone’ssuccessandhappinessinallilyrelationships”(P20-21).Soit’sveryimportanttousegoodparentingathome.Authoritativeparentingsisthebestparentingstyle,becauseitisgoodforchildren’semotiondevelopment,andbecauseauthoritativeparentsacknounconditionally,theycansetacceptablestandards,andtheyh
5、elptopromotechildren’sindependence.Authoritativeparentscanunderstandtheirchildren’sfeelingandteachthemho.Theyoftenhelpthemtofindappropriateoutletstosolveproblems.JohnGottmansaid,“Theydon’tignoreordenytheirkids’feelings.Nordotheybelittleorridiculetheirchildrenforemotionalexpression”(P38).Th
6、eyhaveknople,mysonfeltverysadandovetoanothercity.Hetalkedtomeaboutthat:“Mybestfriendovenextmonth.ymotherusedthesamestyletousall.Idon’tthinkitisbestforparentsorcaretakerstousethesamestyle,becausedifferentfamilieshavedifferentchildren,eveninthesamefamily,childrenaredifferentfromeachother.It’
7、sbetterforthemtouseeclecticparentingstyle.ilylifeisourfirstschoolforemotionallearning”(P20).It’strue.Allofushavedevelopedintodifficultemotionalpersons.Bothofmybrothersareoverfortynosinmunicationskillsandfailtoinitiateactivity.Theyalsostillusethesameparentingto